If I have given a choice I will definitely take them with me, but there are reasons, most reasons we cannot always accept but they will always be there, to hinder, to make us think and to decide not to.
Their school is simply not here. I can’t just always take them with me and it would be hard for them to keep travelling and changing schools. They already have their friends and fun around the home country, so I think this will just be hard for them.
Simple, the budget cannot comply. If I have to take them here, I have to process their papers and visas and spend money on their ticket and etc. I have just started working abroad and the offer is just for an entry level contract worker and I cannot sustain the money I have to spend for them. I know some offers might be on the top level their companies support the finances of bringing the family as well.
I would love to watch them grow, teach them all the values in life but how? I am away and I have to work. How can I connect with them in the way that they will never feel that I am away.
My wife and I always take time to pray together, (Yes, Virtually.) I usually call her in the morning, my time and we say prayers together. She is very supportive. My kids are growing and they need me there. So I have comed up with ways I know I can still connect with them.
- Internet. One way of still connecting and saving up money is using the internet. You may use skype, viber, facetime and numerous video call apps. Nothing is every wasted when you communicate properly and sweetly. ☺
- Monitor them through their guardian – always ask whoever it is that is left with them how they do and their whereabouts, in this way you can also have some stories to talk about and knowing what they are doing means you can teach wisdoms and values they can apply.
- Pray for them – let them know you do. Let them know you are always thinking about their safety and they are loved. Teach them how to pray as well and let them know how vital that is in everyone’s life. Tell them to pray whenever they are scared or confused.
- Let them know you are reliable and you can always be reached – After all, you are their father, Working abroad can never be a hindrance with family ties. Always tell them you are doing all these for them. Let them know that even if you are not physically there, you can always do something to help them and be there for them.
- Ship them something heartfelt! It doesn’t have to be expensive. One thing that can really be comforting is a loaf of homemade banana bread, or perhaps something chocolatey. If you’re not much of a baker or don’t want to deal with shipping, call a local place! Of every awesome bakery San Antonio offers, the one I still long for when I’m not working in that town is Cut to the Chase. It’s so easy. You just call them, and one of the owners, Angela, will probably pick up. You tell her what you’re craving, and they whip it up and send it your way. Even thinking about it, my mouth is watering. So no doubt your kids will appreciate it too, and feel your love in every bite.
Now, with my experience, these things made my family stronger, with faith in God and in each other, we know we can do all things in his ways.